She Comes First

As women everywhere will attest, understanding female sexuality isn’t about guessing what’s under the hood of a car—it’s about knowing what’s under the hood of a clitoris. In She Comes First, clinical sexologist Ian Kerner reframes the conversation, revealing that oral sex isn’t an optional extra but coreplay—the most reliable, intimate pathway to guiding a woman through the entire process of sexual response.

Fun, informative, and easy to read, this book is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure. It details dozens of tried-and-true techniques for satisfying a woman and offers illustrated, step-by-step instructions to help you translate theory into confident, satisfying actions.

She Comes First introduces a fresh, empowering sexual philosophy where pleasure is shared on equal terms and fulfillment is mutual. It invites you to embrace a new era of intimacy—where artistry, patience, and communication lead to deeper connection. As Kerner puts it, even a playful nod to Rhett Butler’s sentiment—“You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how”—takes on a new meaning when you know how to read the signals and guide the moment with care.

• Oral sex considered coreplay: a proven path to sustained arousal and satisfaction for both partners
• Dozens of practical techniques designed to meet real-life needs and preferences
• Illustrated, step-by-step guidance that helps translate concepts into confident practice
• A philosophy of mutual fulfillment that reframes intimacy as a shared journey
• Accessible, engaging writing that makes complex ideas approachable and actionable